One of my first posts was on friends, and the types of friends we gather, but this is always relevant and also im not especially eloquent so here's one written by T.D Jakes, source: spiritualinspiration.tumblr.com
I would like it if it was less formalised, if i get around to it i'd 'translate' it
**********EDIT: i changed the article to fit, for the original please go the the tumblr mentioned above
1. CONFIDANTS – You have very few of them – these are people who welcome you unconditionally. They are into you whether you are up or down, right or wrong, they are in it for the long haul. You can share anything with them. Having a good confidant is one of the keys that unlock the Kingdom. These are people who you can share your deepest and darkest inner thoughts with, who won’t judge you but will feed you instead of draining you.
Have you ever had relationships where the person was emotionally immature and consistently draining you? Feeding off you for inspiration. It’s okay to help others but you must have someone who feeds you so you can feed someone else. These are CONFIDANTS. You can trust them because they'd tell you you're wrong, and stick it out with you while you sort out your problems.
2. CONSTITUENTS - They are not into you but are into what you are FOR. They are for what you are for. As long as you are for what they are for they will be with you but never think they are for you. If they meet someone else that will meet their agenda they will hook up with them and leave you. Don’t mistake a constituent for a confidant. By the time you fall in love or are connected with them in a relationship, they will hook up with someone else and break your heart, leaving you wondering, “I thought our relationship was deeper than that.”
They're okay to hang out with because similar interests = easy conversation but only if you're sure of who you are. Don't change your interests just to keep their interest in you alive.
3. COMRADES - These are not for you nor are they for what you are for. They're not even friends, they're just on your team. Not that you chose eachother to play on the same team. Once they have dealt with their problem they will move on. Don't ever ever rely on them. Don't even fight the enemy together, they will backstab you to accomplish their victory.
They are like scaffolding that is there until the building is built but is later removed because the building is built. Don’t be upset when they leave. They were not supposed to be there anyway. Don’t tell your dream to your constituents they will try to fulfill the dream without you. Don’t tell your dream to your comrades because they will not support you because they are not for you in the first place.
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